I’m so excited about my first experiences trying not to be nice.
I opened a pull request (here) and called the approach of another developer “nasty”. It might look like a really small thing, but it’s considered a big move for me. I also wanted to add a “I don’t care” at the end of my PR’s text, but couldn’t do so.
Also, I used vacuum cleaner at 23:00 on Sunday, and turned on our loud washing machine at the same time. I knew that my flatmates might have objected to these actions. But that was the whole point. I’ve already been so nice to them. So, I wanted to get used to receiving negative feedbacks.
I always overthink about other people’s feelings about my actions. That’s why my smallest actions put a lot of mental pressure on me. I want to stop being like this and instead, do my own work without thinking about other people’s feelings and believe that if they have a problem with something, it’s their responsibility to inform me. Life would be much easier in that way.
However, as I expected, one of my flatmates just told me to not do that again, but in a very very friendly way. Interestingly, in the first case, no one even objected. One of the contributors even said that I’m right and my approach is better. Damn! I wan’t nice and nothing happened to me!
It can be considered as another positive feedback I received from the enviroment after changing my personality as was previously described in here. Here we go man! It’s definitely working! Apparently, it works much better if you don’t look afraid and just keep wearing your confidence mask, even if it’s fake.