Disclaimer: Sorry if it’s not pleasing to read my groans. I just find writing as an outlet for my pain, and my posts are not really meant to be read by a random person as a hobby.
My mind is blown because of thinking to things that I can’t control or don’t matter at all. Even the previous paragraph is proof for it. Why should I really care about what the readers are going to feel after reading my posts? As I said, it’s really exhausting me. I used to be not like this. I was okay till some years ago.
I used to easily accept everything as is and not try to change them. If a universit professor didn’t want to extend the deadline of a homework, I was okay. Either I could deliver it on time or not, it didn’t matter. I wasn’t bothered by the fact that the people were not like I want. Or maybe it’s just my imagination and I’ve been like this from the beginning. Actually, I can remember some instances that I got really mad when other students gained better scores than me in an exam just by cheating and not by their own hands.
Anyway, regardless of being like this or not (as I think it might be a false dilemma), the problem is how to deal with and resolve it. Although it might be a good relief, I don’t think I can completely resolve the problem just by writing about it. Let me search about it and then continue writing.
Oh, it appears to have a name: Control Issue. Interesting! Let me continue reading.
It seems this site suggests some solutions to this problem.
- Identify Your Emotions
- Let Go of What You Cannot Control
Oooh… Why hadn’t I thought of this before? All I have to do is to let go of what I can’t control. And the solution to global warming is to stop warming the earth. Easy-peasy… 😐 - Accept Yourself and Other People As You and They Are
“Accept” is not a button I can push. How am I exactly supposed to accept someone? It’s not a conscious act. But honestly, I think I can work on this item and put it into use. - Practice Stress Management and Relaxation Techniques
Okay I can work on this one. It just needs some more research. I’ll do it later. - Use A Journal
- Challenge Unhelpful Thought Patterns
- Get Support From Loved Ones
Hmmm okay! I think it was useful. I’ll try to put them into use and hope to get out of this situation.
Good night! 🙂